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Oregon Coast New Year's Day 2016

2016: Forecasts, Retrogrades, & Racism & Resolutions!

Happy New Year Everyone!

This featured image in this post was taken on Jan. 1, 2016, at Whaleshead Cove in Oregon. What a beautiful day to begin the New Year with!

In 2016, I wish you all the power and strength of the golden sun; the tranquility and peace of the water; and the grounding of rock and sand.

My husband and I ventured over to the Oregon Coast on New Year’s Day, and we had a wonderful time.

Taking a closer look at the featured image, you will see a beautiful face in this rock.

Face in Rock Mother Earth

This is what I will be writing about today: taking a closer look; at ourselves and at our world, for 2016. I will be talking about Mercury Retrogrades, forecasts for this year, and finally solutions to racism in 2016 and beyond.

Mercury Retrogrades, 2016

I realize I am a little late in wishing everyone a Happy New Year, but my excuse is this most recent Mercury Retrograde! I know, I like to blame everything on Mercury Retrogrades! LOL. Here are the Mercury Retrograde dates for 2016.

January 5th – January 25th
April 28th – May 22nd
August 30th– September 21st
December 19th – January 8th, 2017.

This Year’s Forecast

I have a friend and List Alumni who sends me Astrology and Numerology newsletters, and while I am not an expert, I would like to summarize what I hear these newsletters saying for 2016. From the Numerologists, 2016 is a 9 year, meaning that this year is a completion year. Therefore, 2016 is all about reviewing and letting go of the past, and also about deciding what is really important for the future. Astrologically, Jupiter is also in Retrograde, placing a particular emphasis on letting go of past family issues. From Chinese Astrology, this year is the year of the Fire Monkey. Energy, creativity, intellect and even global volatility, especially later in the year, are emphasized. Yes, this year we really might need that grounding from Mother Earth!

New Year’s Resolutions & Racism Today

Many people review their Lists at New Year’s, and considering this year’s forecast, what a great time for this! I suggest taking up to two weeks, to check and see what’s happened on your List, to see what needs to be removed or revised, and to decide what you want for the future.

I did this myself. Assisting me with this, on New Year’s Eve, I was invited over to a local medicine woman’s home. There, we did a ceremony for letting go what we no longer wanted in 2015. Later, we discussed what seemed to be on everyone’s mind, the subject of racial discrimination.

First of all, I found it very interesting that The Letting Go Ceremony was very similar to one of our List processes; in that you write down what you want to let go, and then you burn it in the fire. This is similar to burning our I Want List Statements, after we replace them with I Am List Statements. In List dynamics, Joe Timmreck tells me that in doing this, we are telling our subconscious minds that we are no longer attached to that item, and it complies.

Once we had completed this process, though, the discussion about discrimination began. The subject of religious discrimination came up first, because we started talking about the recent suggestions to reject Syrian Refugees. After a brief pause, however, the subject soon turned to racial discrimination; and in particular to the discrimination of Aboriginal people.

Very early in the conversation, I mistakenly made a comment that Aboriginal people have been discriminated against in the past. I was quickly reminded, however, that in many ways, discrimination is still very much alive in Aboriginal people’s lives today.

Our hostess informed me that she knows aboriginal people who even today remember signs that read, “No Dogs and No Indians Allowed.” Too, she talked about the traumas and abuse at residential schools, as well as the imposed and degrading beliefs about being “savages.” She added that she knows people even today who remember being taken away from their mother’s arms, crying and screaming; and then they never saw their parents again.

While many of these extreme experiences are no longer happening presently, we all know from List theory the potency of early programming, by our parents and others, in terms of passing on limiting beliefs and traumas; and without a List or effective trauma release techniques to clear them, these traumas and beliefs very easily get passed on from generation to generation, and on into the future forever.

On a lighter note, however, the hostess then shared how she and colleagues had been talking recently about solutions to this discrimination. The solution to racism they had come up with was that we all need to focus on our common humanity, rather than our differences.  (Also, The List is here now, and we also have a very effective Trauma Release Technique: more later.)

One Humanity

This was very interesting to me, because I too had recently been pondering the same subject myself. Pondering the Syrian and Middle Eastern Crises, my conclusion was that focusing on commonly held human values might also be the solution.

My Solutions to Racism; List Resolutions, 2016

So, for my resolutions for 2016 and beyond, I put together and added these List wordings for Humanity. I focused mostly on human values, and I will share these wordings with you below.

“…having humanity have the best possible common values, easily….”

“…having humanity know and share their best possible common values, easily….”

“…having human beings love and accept each other, on any level, easily….”

“…having humanity function from its highest consciousness, functioning with truth, wisdom and knowledge, on any level, easily….”

“…having human beings know and have the best possible common beliefs about higher consciousness, easily….”

I know it’s a bit of a leap to include higher consciousness in these wordings, but in doing this, I am attempting to transcend both racial and religious differences. In List theory, different religious theories, and even racial prejudices, are simply left brain, partial and sometimes inaccurate interpretations of right brain and higher conscious truths. –Assuming this, it would be so nice for humanity to be more accurately on the same page! Socrates himself used to talk about this, talking about how symbols representing truths exist on a higher plane, and they then emanate through to us in this physical world. Thus we are left to interpret them, based on our unique geographic and common histories: for better or for worse!

Grandma Aggie, says, “Wake Up World!”

Grandma AggiePhoto By Jason R. Couch

     Not only had I been contemplating humanity at New Year’s, but I was also thinking about Grandmother Agnes a lot, even before Christmas. Then a friend of mine mentioned that she had just been interviewed on JPR Radio, about her new book and CD release, titled “Grandma Aggie, says, ‘Wake Up World!’” In her book and CD, she also talks about how in these times we need to come together as one human community, to find solutions to the problems of today. Too, I believe she shares many of the ceremonies and values of her tribe. Having attended three different Grandmother’s Councils, I have been very impressed with the society she represents, and in particular the positive, inclusive and role-based way that they raise their children.

As Jann Timmreck once told me, “This is a very ancient society.” I believe in saying this, she was implying that Aboriginal peoples have had many, many centuries, “to get it right.” While I have not yet purchased this book, I intend to; and I am sure that there are many gems held within. Here is a link to Grandma Aggie’s interview, and below that is a link to the purchase of Grandma Aggie’s book.

http://ijpr.org/post/agnes-baker-pilgrim-taowhywee#stream/0

http://www.blackstonelibrary.com/catalog/product/view/id/179013

Not only is Grandmother Agnes local to this area, but so is Blackstone Books, the publisher. I look forward to further publications in this series, including the information shared by Chief Avrol Looking Horse. I have written about Chief Avrol Looking Horse in previous posts. He, too, wishes that Humanity come together, with common, shared values, and a collaborative view for creating a better world.

So, Happy 2016 everyone! Wishing you “the best possible” fulfillment of our New Year’s Resolutions!

“Humanly yours,”

Marnie Hancock.

Don't Bully... Be A Friend, Part 2

Anti-Bullying Programs In Schools: A 25 Year Teacher’s Perspective, Part 2

Part 2.  Anti-Bullying Programs Today

A Four-Part Article, By Marnie Hancock, B.Ed, Author, Teacher, Consultant

Introduction:

In my first article, I shared my 25 year history with Anti-Bullying Programs.  I shared how initially Anti-Bullying Programs were not very popular, because of thier inherant difficulties.  In Part 2 of this article, I discuss Anti-Bullying Programs today, from the context of recently teaching at a stellar Lower Mainland school.  Much has changed, especially at this school.  Here, modern Anti-Bullying Programs have both evolved and thrived.

Pink Shirt Day & My First Staff Meeting

Return now to present day, and the wonderful, brilliant school where I was teaching this Spring.  From my first article, you will know that at my first Staff Meeting here I was secretly and absolutely thrilled, as I learned that Anti-Bullying was made a priority.  When this stellar school’s Counselor got up to speak about Anti-Bullying Activities, I listened with surprise and sharp, keen interest.

The School Counselor’s Anti-Bullying Program this year was going to include all of the school’s students preferably wearing a Pink T-Shirt, on National Anti-Bullying Day.  The Student’s Council was also going to do some fun and creative activities in the afternoon, running stations such as face painting for the younger students.   At first, I didn’t really understand how this would relate to Anti-Bullying; but I was soon to find out.

At this staff meeting, the Counselor and fellow Resource Teacher also talked about some of the concerns inherent to the Anti-Bullying Program.  (What?  Déjà vu?)  First of all, they were concerned that some of the children, especially the boys, would be teased (i.e. Emotionally Bullied) for wearing a Pink T-Shirt.  –I was really impressed at this level of sensitivity, given to an Emotional Bullying scenario.  As I mentioned before, previously I had seen the emotional needs of students simply brushed off by the adults around them.

Then the Counselor and his committee added that while they wanted to encourage the children to wear a Pink T-Shirt, they decided not to make this mandatory—wearing a pink bracelet or anything else pink would do.   (What?  Even more sensitivity?)

Increased Bullying on Anti-Bullying Day

Next, the Counselor mentioned his third concern.  The Counselor mentioned that they were not going to have the usual “Walk for Bullying” activity, because they had found that when they held this event, incidences of bullying actually increased!  (He added that no one really knew why, but this was the case.)

What?!  Déjà vu again!  I thought, well, here I am, 25 years later, listening to the same piece of information, and I believe I know exactly why this happens!   I remember thinking, I need to talk with this Counselor privately, and to talk with him about why this is.  Being such a sensitive person, and a counselor with psychology training, I thought maybe I had finally found someone within the system who would understand.  –But of course, with teaching being such a busy profession, and with the counselor working in a completely different wing, I never got the chance.  This article is in part my way of sharing this reason with this amazing Counselor and school.

Modeling and Peer Mentoring

Anti-Bullying Week fast approached, and the way it was orchestrated, I was really, really impressed.  The Friday before Pink Shirt Day, several Student Council members arrived in our classroom, all ready to talk about the upcoming activities.  They arrived as a great mix of boys and girls, and they were all wearing Pink T-Shirts.  (Silently I was thinking to myself, what great modeling!)  Modeling, by the way, is one of simplest and yet most effective teaching and Anti-Bullying strategies available to us today.  Another term for modeling, at least in this context, is Peer Mentoring.  I will explain and describe this term further below.

The Student’s Council members next shared the reasons why they were wearing their Pink T-Shirts.  I had not heard this story before, but several years ago, a young man on the East Coast of Canada had been bullied at school for wearing a Pink T-Shirt, and he had eventually committed suicide over the incident.

When the Student’s Council delegates spoke, I could see the young students listening attentively to their peers.  I was silently amazed, as I watched all of my students easily empathize with the story.  There were no silly, disrespectful reactions; and the students all immediately agreed to wear a Pink T-Shirt on Anti-Bullying Day.  The younger students had heard about it from their “cool” peers.  They had seen caring and concern for the young boy modeled; and they were ready and “dialed in.”  This effectively is how Modeling and Peer Mentoring works.  Research shows that young children are much more likely to listen to their peers, about any subject, rather than listening to an adult.  However, you can still note from above that much adult knowledge and direction is needed behind the scenes to effectively deliver these components of an Anti-Bullying Program.

Now, looking a little deeper, I realize that the Student’s Council were not just modeling how to wear a Pink T-Shirt.  They were also modeling the values of tolerance, respect, inclusion, compassion and empathy.  All of these values are necessary to instill in children, when developing an Anti-Bullying Program.

Back, though, to Anti-Bullying Week.  Even  having seen how well the Pink Shirt Day message was delivered, I still really wasn’t ready for what happened on Monday morning.  When I opened my classroom door, to my complete shock and surprise, I was greeted by a sea of pink.  Pink jackets, pink backpacks, even pink shoes flooded my consciousness; and of course, there were many, many Pink T-Shirts.  On that Monday morning, almost every child in that classroom walked in the door wearing a Pink T-Shirt: and the very few that didn’t, arrived wearing something else that was pink, like a pink bracelet or pink socks.  The message about Anti-Bullying had been received: and I was completely flabbergasted.

Why, after 25 years of teaching, was I so surprised at this full class participation?  Well, in years past, on special days, I don’t think I’d ever seen 100 % participation.  –It could have even been Pink Lollypop Day!  “And even on a Monday?”  I asked myself!  Anyone who has ever taught Primary students knows that young students’ memories can often be fairly short.  Parents memories, too, can be a bit short, due to the distractions of a weekend.  I have to admit, my own memory could be a bit short, too, especially when I was busy teaching.  On that Monday, having forgotten to wear a Pink T-Shirt myself, last minute before I opened that door, and after seeing so many staff members wearing Pink T-Shirts, I quickly cut out a quick pink heart, and I attached it to my necklace and keychain.

With this 100% participation being so rare, I also began to reflect that many more key factors must be at work at this school, in order to make this event so successful.  I will share them with you in context, as I continue on.

Reduced Bullying During Anti-Bullying Week

Later that day, all the younger students had a wonderful time having their faces painted by the Students Council.  This time, on Anti-Bullying Day, no increase in Bullying took place.  To the school Counselor’s credit, he had effectively eliminated one of the principal difficulties with the Anti-Bullying Program: increased bullying, during Anti-Bullying Week.  I’m not really sure if anyone at that school, and even myself until I wrote this article, realized how truly amazing this was.

As you will remember, this increase in bullying was the main block the first Anti-Bullying Program being implemented at my earlier school, 25 years ago: and in one easy step, this Counselor and his Committee had simply eliminated it.  What I think happened, was that they took the emphasis on the negative aspects of bullying, just touched on them briefly, and then they changed the whole event into a much more positive, Peer Mentoring experience.  Bravo!  (This, by the way, is also the basics of how the List Program works.  You take a problem in your life, you write it down in a specific way, and then you rewrite the negative experience into a positive one.  This easy step effectively rewrites any limiting beliefs in your subconscious mind, changing negative realities into positive ones.  And, it works!)

More Amazement: An Assembly Extraordinaire!

Later that week, I continued to be astounded by the Anti-Bullying Program that this Counselor and his Student’s Council were able to present.  At the end of the week, the whole school attended a special Anti-Bullying Day Assembly.  There, the Student’s Council modeled and taught everything anyone ever needed to know about Anti-Bullying.  (More Peer Mentoring.) They modeled all the different Bullying scenarios, and then they modeled several effective strategies for their elimination.  I was silently amazed, as different members of the Student’s Council acted out specific Physical and Emotional Bullying examples.  After each example, they modeled the ways the students could help themselves or their peers to stop this Bullying.  The key defenses, repeated over and over, were to be assertive, to get away, and then to tell an adultAdvocacy for children who are being bullied was also modeled.  This was further termed, bystander intervention.

So, Did Anti-Bullying Week Stop Bullying At Our School?

Ultimately, the success of any program can be measured by whether or not the concepts have been transferred into every-day experience.  So, did Anti-Bullying Week stop Bullying at this school?  Well, to answer this question, I would have to say, “Yes,” and “No.”

Here is the “Yes” answer to this question.  At this school, there was always a sense of calm and maturity amongst the older, intermediate children, towards their younger student counterparts.

Were these results simply because of Anti-Bullying Week, however?  The answer to this question, I think, would have to be, “No.”

It Takes More Than One Special Week to Eliminate Bullying

I recently had the delight of speaking with the very first Principal to implement Anti-Bullying at my very first School District.  Just by chance, I was over at his School District’s Office, picking up a T-4 copy from my Teacher On Call work there.  I asked to speak with him, and he came down to talk to me immediately.  I reintroduced myself, reminding him of our past interactions.  I told him about the wonderful school I’d just been teaching at, and their many different Anti-Bullying activities.  Immediately he stated, it takes more than just Pink Shirt Day to eliminate bullying at a school.  I was initially a bit shocked by his statement, but I had to agree.  I will share with you more about our conversation, but first here are some examples of what I believe he meant.

Many Factors Implemented Over Time Contribute to Eliminating Bullying

As I mentioned earlier, there were many other positive mechanisms at work at this school, introduced behind the scenes and over time, which I think contributed to eliminating Bullying.

I experienced another special day over Easter, also implemented administered by the School Counselor and The Student’s Council.  A school-wide Easter Egg hunt was carried out, and the Student’s Council led the whole event, being especially attentive to their younger student’s.  Here I saw even more Peer Mentoring and Modeling, especially of the values of compassion, caring and responsibility.

In my classroom, too, every Friday was Buddy Day.  This was a day when a classroom of older students arrived in our room, and they helped us with theme-based lessons that both teachers designed just for Buddy Day.

I was surprised that in the four months that I taught at this school, I never saw an intermediate student at the office.  This in itself was a complete miracle.

The Office & Administration Contribute Greatly

Speaking about the office, here also was a key factor to the very smooth and positive functioning of this school.  The Principal and Vice-Principal were always right on top of everything that was happening at this school, but in a very friendly and positive way.  I have to say, too, that the secretaries at this school were simply amazing.  On my second day at this school, one of the secretaries caringly asked me how my day had been, and I was very grateful and surprised.  Her caring and compassion towards an unknown Teacher On Call was very unique.  Too, newsletters were a joint effort between the administration, staff and the secretaries, and newsletters to parents were always perfectly timed, friendly, and informative.  Also, there were many community events that families and staff could attend.  While Staff Meetings were many, I actually found that this was very beneficial for the effective running of this school.  The Principal and her Vice Principal always had an agenda; but input from the teachers and support staff was requested, valued and respected.  Special contributions and personal events in were often celebrated.  This positive and inclusive environment led to strong leadership amongst the teachers and other staff members.  Everyone had a different specialty; but teachers and support staff were all motivated and inspired, and they all worked very hard and well together as a team.

Effectively, I encountered these qualities and values everywhere I went at this school.  Arriving on my very first day, I was greeted by the Principal at the door.  She took the time to take me down to the classroom where I would be working the next day.  She warmly introduced me to the teacher I would soon be team teaching with.

Essentially, there was always a very positive, strong, nurturing, and caring community atmosphere at this school.  Subtly, too, this created great modeling for the children.

Over time, I realized I had arrived at a very special place.  Many schools spout policies of inclusion and mutual respect, but this can be difficult to achieve.  I would have to say that this school actually lived these policies, and I am so grateful that I was able to finally experience this, after 25 years of teaching.

Bullying can be prevented, when everyone involved is focused on everything that is bullying’s exact opposite; inclusion, nurturing and respect.

Article 3, In Two Weeks

In my next article, I discuss the Ministry of Education’s new program, E.R.A.S.E. Bullying (Expect Respect and A Safe Education.)  I also discuss the “No” answer to the question, “Did Anti-Bullying Week stop Bullying at this school?”  Despite the many Anti-Bullying successes at this marvelous school, I found that some bullying still occurred.  In Article #3, I will share many personal classroom management strategies that I believe contribute significantly to eliminating bullying.

The List and Relationships

Valentine’s Day “List Love” News: Questers Talk

List Love!Yuko's "List Love" Testimonial

Hello everyone!  Feb. 14 was a “golden success,” with many people attending Questers on Tues., Feb. 14. They heard about “List Love” and much, much more.

The symbol of The Rose represented the main theme of the evening, answering the question,“In life and love, how does one go from the beautiful but closed up rosebud, to being an abundant and fully blossomed rose?” The answer presented was The List, with some theory and many “List Love” Testimonials shared.

Thank you again, Maureen and Yuko!

I also shared my own story, in the form of the new song I wrote, “The List Miracle Song.”

I look forward to sharing this song with you very soon!Maureen's List Love Testimonial

Today, though, I am happy to share several of my Valentine’s talk slides and photos with you, and an overview of the many miracles that took place that evening.

Miracles on Feb. 14th!

On Feb. 14th I tried many new things, and miraculously, everything went smoothly!

I had it on my List!  Here is the wording, in case you have a similar event coming up.

“I am having the best possible presentation about the List, or Reality Dynamics, on Tuesday, February 14, 2012, fulfilling my wants, needs and desires, easily, enjoyably and comfortably, and in healthy and positive ways.”

A Power Point First!

Tues. night was a first for me using the program Power Point.    A special thank you to Karilee Orchard, who is my computer and website miracle worker, for teaching me how to use this program!  Several of the pictures in this article are slides from this presentation.  I was so happy and grateful that this being a first, everything went so smoothly.

High Attendance

I believe there were 30-40 people in attendance!   This was a miracle in itself, considering it was Valentine’s evening!

Video Taping

Another first and a miracle for the 14th was that I had the evening videotaped (oh my God!) The videotape is being edited now, and clips from the evening will soon be posted on this site.  According to Danielle Turner, from Velvet Pumpkin Productions, we have some great video footage to share!

The Miraculous List Box!

List Box at QuestersSpeaking of sharing, another fun and “miraculous” event leading up to the event was that 2 days prior, I found this wonderful Valentine’s List Box.  Isn’t this great?  When I was at Staples looking for Valentine’s paper, I found this wonderful example of a List Box for Valentine’s, just sitting on a shelf!  Before, I was worried I couldn’t bring mine, because mine was too big!

Many people in attendance couldn’t believe that I had found this List box, and in such a timely way.  That’s when I shared how with the List, miracles just become ordinary!

Speaking of miracles being ordinary, that is title of one of the 3 songs that I sang during the evening, “Ordinary Miracle!” Other songs included “The List Miracle Song” & “The Rose.”

Miraculous Music

A special thank you to my friend Brian McGibney, who at the last moment came to assist me with the special sound set up that we needed for recording and videotaping this Valentines evening.  For me, not knowing where to put all the cords into a soundboard, or even begin to know how to mix the sound–this was another miracle!

List Consciousness Defined
Levels of Consciousness

The Miraculous List!

Not every moment of the evening was just miracles and song!  I did talk briefly about List Theory, and how when you remove the limiting beliefs in your subconscious mind, your dreams “miraculously manifest!”

I talked about how the List also helps to so smoothly integrate all three levels of consciousness.

I look forward to when I have the time to develop this particular Power Point slide into many, and this will become a List presentation that we can utilize over and over again, with many different organizations.

Please let me know if you know of any new organization that might be interested in hearing about our Miraculous List, and also co-sponsoring a List Class!

List Book Sales

Oh, and another wonderful, miraculous first!  On the 14th, I had my first List Book PayPal purchase, from an interested person in Iowa!  She was a friend of a Quester.  When she checked out our website, she decided to buy the List book!  Also on Tues. evening, many people were interested in purchasing The List Book itself.   More and more people are learning the List simply through following the List Book.  You may want to think about purchasing a List book for a friend or family member yourself, or even several!  While we eventually encourage people to attend a full List Class, learning first from a friend or family member is also very effective; especially when you lend them a hand!

The List Book Photo

All in all, Feb. 14th was a wonderful, miraculous Valentine’s evening!  Thank you to those who attended, in the physical or in spirit!  Stay tuned too for the The List Miracle Song!  I look forward to sharing it with you all very soon.

Lots of Love, Light & Laughter!

Marnie Hancock

B.Ed, Author, Singer, Consultant

www.therealitydynamicslist.com

778-837-2360

 

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The List

An Article by Silvia Wilson,
Founder of The Vancouver Goddess Gift Gathering Events
www.goddessgiftgathering.net

Imagine having a tool that you use everyday -24/7! That’s what I’ve found that The List is. For years I had been struggling with limiting beliefs. Often not even conscious that’s what was holding me back from receiving and doing what I wanted.

Since doing my own List in July 2004, I’ve already seen some very positive shifts in my life. My relationship with my partner has become more loving and enjoyable. I’ve been accomplishing and completing goals more easily and enjoyably. Whenever I’m in a car driving or as a passenger I feel safe, easily, enjoyably and comfortably. Compared to what I’ve spent on all kinds of workshops I found the value of this workshop & process immense.

The List is based on the concept that our sub-conscious ‘runs’ us and our lives 24/7 whether we’re asleep or awake. It’s because of this that it’s such a powerful tool. I would strongly recommend it to anyone who’s tried many different methods to improve/change their lives with little success. It’s important that you take the time to apply the theory and actually work with The List. You need to adjust and change it so it evolves throughout your life just as you wants, needs and desires evolve.