Award Winner Grandmother Agnes & My Nomination Letter

Hello Everyone.  I had the great pleasure of sitting at the luncheon table with Grandmother Agnes Baker Pilgrim and her daughter Nadine,  when this May Grandmother Agnes received the Women Helping Women Award from Soroptimist’s International of Ashland.  Our picture and story even made it onto the front page of The Ashland Daily Tidings!  I am currently a Soroptimist, and I had nominated Grandmother Agnes several months ago for the award.  Below is a copy of the nomination letter I wrote, and at the end of this letter is also a link to the article in the Ashland Daily Tidings.  Many of Grandmother Agnes’s causes are the causes of List Alumni, I hope you enjoy reading about such a shining example of positive leadership in our time.

Nomination Letter for Grandmother Agnes

I would like to nominate Grandmother Agnes Baker-Pilgrim for Soroptimists International of Ashland’s Women Helping Women Award, for her powerful leadership role as a compassionate and yet highly influential woman, both internationally and locally.

Through her efforts, she has shone the light on women’s capacity to influence and lead throughout the world, leading on such important issues as women’s rights, environmental pollution, racial discrimination, the importance of water preservation, anti-bullying, and how to build positive relationships within the family and the community.

I first heard about Grandmother Agnes from Kathy Garrett Canape, last year’s SIA President.  A number of years back, Kathy sent me an email about an upcoming event in Ashland, called a Grandmother’s Council.  I immediately felt this was important, and Kathy did too.  She was even helping to host the event, and to assist I sent out an email to my email list.

This was one of the first Grandmother’s Council gatherings.  Many more have taken place throughout the world, and Grandmothers from many different countries have hosted and participated in these Councils.

In the highly acclaimed book, “Grandmothers Counsel the World,” by Carol Schaefer, many of these grandmother’s stories are shared. Grandmother Agnes is the first Grandmother to be written about, and she is considered to be the leader of the International Grandmother’s Council.

Grandmother's Council 2009 Post Lincoln City

In Aboriginal cultures around the world, this Grandmother’s Council has been prophesized for centuries.  One of the main purposes of this Council, so the prophesy states, is to right the imbalance between men and women, and to place women once again into a position of power and authority in the world.

Grandmother Agnes herself hosted a highly successful International Grandmothers Council in Lincoln City.  I had the honor and pleasure of attending this Council, and one shining example of Grandmother Agnes’s leadership abilities stands out in my mind.

Part way through the conference, Grandmother Aggie brought up one of her beautiful young granddaughters.  In her traditional dress, this young girl danced for everyone at the Council.  Not only was I impressed with her inclusion at such an important and prestigious event, but I was really impressed by the way actions like this were so clearly building confidence and a strong and positive self-concept within this young girl.

When the applause ended, Grandmother Aggie shared with us how this young girl had travelled with the Grandmothers all the way to Rome, where they had gone to request an audience with the former Pope.  I believe their goal was to the removal of a number of ancient Papal Bulls, which had condoned and led to the decimation of many aboriginal cultures around the world.  Also, I believe their goal was to question the status of women within the church, and to talk with the Pope about improving this.

To quote Carol Schaefer’s book again, “In some Native American societies, tribal leaders consulted a council of grandmothers before making any decisions that would affect the whole community.”

But the Pope did not come out to meet them.  Instead, the security came; and these brave grandmothers and this courageous young girl had to strongly stand their ground and reiterate their reasons for coming.  When the Pope refused to meet them, this young girl said, “He’s not a very nice person.”

I understand that the Grandmothers are planning to travel to Rome again and approach the new Pope in Rome, later this year.

Recently Grandmother Agnes was published in an audiobook through Ashland’ own Blackstone Books, titled, “Grandma says: WAKE UP WORLD!”

The back cover reads the following way:

“Agnes Baker Pilgrim, the oldest member of the Takelma Tribe of Oregon, travels tirelessly around the world to keep traditions alive, to help those in need, and to be a voice for the voiceless….  Transcribed from an interview with one of the most important voices of the First Nation and of the world, Grandma Aggies’s stories and advice mesmerize and captivate while providing a blueprint for how inhabitants of the earth can live together in harmony and peace.

AGNES EMMA BAKER PILGRIM is a Native American spiritual elder from Grants Pass, Oregon.  The oldest member of her tribe, the Takelma, she has been honored as a ‘Living Treasure” by the Confederated Tribes of Siletz and as a “Living Cultural Legend: by the Oregon Council of the Arts.”

Soroptimists International of Ashland, let’s honour Grandmother Agnes too.  We are so lucky to have this inspirational, strong and wonderful female role model, right here in our community.

Yours sincerely,

Marnie Hancock.

Grandmother Agnes & Marnie at Awards Luncheon by Chris

http://www.dailytidings.com/article/20160515/NEWS/160519871

As many of you know, I attended three of the many Grandmother’s Councils, and I wrote about my reasons for attending in the following post on this site:  https://therealitydynamicslist.com/better-world/list-class-vancouver-international-womens-day-sedonas-grandmothers-council/

2016: Forecasts, Retrogrades, & Racism & Resolutions!

Happy New Year Everyone!

This featured image in this post was taken on Jan. 1, 2016, at Whaleshead Cove in Oregon. What a beautiful day to begin the New Year with!

In 2016, I wish you all the power and strength of the golden sun; the tranquility and peace of the water; and the grounding of rock and sand.

My husband and I ventured over to the Oregon Coast on New Year’s Day, and we had a wonderful time.

Taking a closer look at the featured image, you will see a beautiful face in this rock.

Face in Rock Mother Earth

This is what I will be writing about today: taking a closer look; at ourselves and at our world, for 2016. I will be talking about Mercury Retrogrades, forecasts for this year, and finally solutions to racism in 2016 and beyond.

Mercury Retrogrades, 2016

I realize I am a little late in wishing everyone a Happy New Year, but my excuse is this most recent Mercury Retrograde! I know, I like to blame everything on Mercury Retrogrades! LOL. Here are the Mercury Retrograde dates for 2016.

January 5th – January 25th
April 28th – May 22nd
August 30th– September 21st
December 19th – January 8th, 2017.

This Year’s Forecast

I have a friend and List Alumni who sends me Astrology and Numerology newsletters, and while I am not an expert, I would like to summarize what I hear these newsletters saying for 2016. From the Numerologists, 2016 is a 9 year, meaning that this year is a completion year. Therefore, 2016 is all about reviewing and letting go of the past, and also about deciding what is really important for the future. Astrologically, Jupiter is also in Retrograde, placing a particular emphasis on letting go of past family issues. From Chinese Astrology, this year is the year of the Fire Monkey. Energy, creativity, intellect and even global volatility, especially later in the year, are emphasized. Yes, this year we really might need that grounding from Mother Earth!

New Year’s Resolutions & Racism Today

Many people review their Lists at New Year’s, and considering this year’s forecast, what a great time for this! I suggest taking up to two weeks, to check and see what’s happened on your List, to see what needs to be removed or revised, and to decide what you want for the future.

I did this myself. Assisting me with this, on New Year’s Eve, I was invited over to a local medicine woman’s home. There, we did a ceremony for letting go what we no longer wanted in 2015. Later, we discussed what seemed to be on everyone’s mind, the subject of racial discrimination.

First of all, I found it very interesting that The Letting Go Ceremony was very similar to one of our List processes; in that you write down what you want to let go, and then you burn it in the fire. This is similar to burning our I Want List Statements, after we replace them with I Am List Statements. In List dynamics, Joe Timmreck tells me that in doing this, we are telling our subconscious minds that we are no longer attached to that item, and it complies.

Once we had completed this process, though, the discussion about discrimination began. The subject of religious discrimination came up first, because we started talking about the recent suggestions to reject Syrian Refugees. After a brief pause, however, the subject soon turned to racial discrimination; and in particular to the discrimination of Aboriginal people.

Very early in the conversation, I mistakenly made a comment that Aboriginal people have been discriminated against in the past. I was quickly reminded, however, that in many ways, discrimination is still very much alive in Aboriginal people’s lives today.

Our hostess informed me that she knows aboriginal people who even today remember signs that read, “No Dogs and No Indians Allowed.” Too, she talked about the traumas and abuse at residential schools, as well as the imposed and degrading beliefs about being “savages.” She added that she knows people even today who remember being taken away from their mother’s arms, crying and screaming; and then they never saw their parents again.

While many of these extreme experiences are no longer happening presently, we all know from List theory the potency of early programming, by our parents and others, in terms of passing on limiting beliefs and traumas; and without a List or effective trauma release techniques to clear them, these traumas and beliefs very easily get passed on from generation to generation, and on into the future forever.

On a lighter note, however, the hostess then shared how she and colleagues had been talking recently about solutions to this discrimination. The solution to racism they had come up with was that we all need to focus on our common humanity, rather than our differences.  (Also, The List is here now, and we also have a very effective Trauma Release Technique: more later.)

One Humanity

This was very interesting to me, because I too had recently been pondering the same subject myself. Pondering the Syrian and Middle Eastern Crises, my conclusion was that focusing on commonly held human values might also be the solution.

My Solutions to Racism; List Resolutions, 2016

So, for my resolutions for 2016 and beyond, I put together and added these List wordings for Humanity. I focused mostly on human values, and I will share these wordings with you below.

“…having humanity have the best possible common values, easily….”

“…having humanity know and share their best possible common values, easily….”

“…having human beings love and accept each other, on any level, easily….”

“…having humanity function from its highest consciousness, functioning with truth, wisdom and knowledge, on any level, easily….”

“…having human beings know and have the best possible common beliefs about higher consciousness, easily….”

I know it’s a bit of a leap to include higher consciousness in these wordings, but in doing this, I am attempting to transcend both racial and religious differences. In List theory, different religious theories, and even racial prejudices, are simply left brain, partial and sometimes inaccurate interpretations of right brain and higher conscious truths. –Assuming this, it would be so nice for humanity to be more accurately on the same page! Socrates himself used to talk about this, talking about how symbols representing truths exist on a higher plane, and they then emanate through to us in this physical world. Thus we are left to interpret them, based on our unique geographic and common histories: for better or for worse!

Grandma Aggie, says, “Wake Up World!”

Grandma AggiePhoto By Jason R. Couch

     Not only had I been contemplating humanity at New Year’s, but I was also thinking about Grandmother Agnes a lot, even before Christmas. Then a friend of mine mentioned that she had just been interviewed on JPR Radio, about her new book and CD release, titled “Grandma Aggie, says, ‘Wake Up World!’” In her book and CD, she also talks about how in these times we need to come together as one human community, to find solutions to the problems of today. Too, I believe she shares many of the ceremonies and values of her tribe. Having attended three different Grandmother’s Councils, I have been very impressed with the society she represents, and in particular the positive, inclusive and role-based way that they raise their children.

As Jann Timmreck once told me, “This is a very ancient society.” I believe in saying this, she was implying that Aboriginal peoples have had many, many centuries, “to get it right.” While I have not yet purchased this book, I intend to; and I am sure that there are many gems held within. Here is a link to Grandma Aggie’s interview, and below that is a link to the purchase of Grandma Aggie’s book.

http://ijpr.org/post/agnes-baker-pilgrim-taowhywee#stream/0

http://www.blackstonelibrary.com/catalog/product/view/id/179013

Not only is Grandmother Agnes local to this area, but so is Blackstone Books, the publisher. I look forward to further publications in this series, including the information shared by Chief Avrol Looking Horse. I have written about Chief Avrol Looking Horse in previous posts. He, too, wishes that Humanity come together, with common, shared values, and a collaborative view for creating a better world.

So, Happy 2016 everyone! Wishing you “the best possible” fulfillment of our New Year’s Resolutions!

“Humanly yours,”

Marnie Hancock.

Healing The Water & The Environment, & Upcoming Classes

Water and a lack of it are on many people’s minds these days.

When my husband and I went on a recent hike up to Crater Lake, we made our usual stop at the headwaters of the Rogue River.  In 2009, torrents of water were once flowing over rocks making mini waterfalls (above), and this was just one of many tributaries.  Now, in 2015, the same place is just a tricle, and two full tributaries have been reduced to one (below.)

Rogue River Headwaters Sept 2015 RS
So, it was very timely that we discovered some new List wordings for healing the water and also the environment.  In a very roundabout way, we came up with the following List wording at one of our List gatherings in Ashland.

“…having the water in Southern Oregon abundant, clean, healthy and beneficial to drink, easily….”

This List wording actually started out by a List Alumni to trying to clear smoky skies in Southern Oregon. Tired of the month-long smoke in the valley, she added this wording to her List.

“…having the air in Southern Oregon clean, healthy and beneficial to breath, easily….”

Almost immediately, the smoky skies turned blue. What, you say, the skies were likely going to clear anyways?!? Well, as always, there is no physical “proof” that this change was caused by the List. But, the long-awaited smoke clearing occurred within a 12 hour period, and, very easily. Since then, we have experienced a full month of clear and sunny blue skies, and the smoke has not returned.

Crater Lake Sept 2015 RS

My husband and I enjoyed our second pilgrimage to Crater Lake this summer as soon as the skies cleared. Fortunately, there seems to be little change in the level of the water in the crater.  (No out of control consumption?!?)  But snow packs last winter were very minimal.

So, I thought, why not try a similar wording for the local water, written above, and even for the soils we grow our food in?

“…having the soil in Southern Oregon clean, healthy and beneficial to grow healthy and beneficial food in, easily….”

The Five Elements

In this way, I covered three of the five elements identified as very significant in many Ancient Societies.

The only ones I’m leaving out are fire, and wood, or the ethers, also known as spirit. I think we have seen enough of the element of fire for a while! (But here is a beautiful picture of a fire in its proper place at Crater Lake Lodge.)

Crater Lake Lodge 2015 RS

And I have previously written a complete article about safety for the trees.

Regarding the ethers, and/or spirit, I believe many ancient civilizations believed that this was the source of all the elements, and in part ran through them all.

This Summer’s Conferences, & Care for Water

This brings me to a brief discussion of the two conferences I alerted you to this summer, the visit of the Tibetan Rinpoche from Bhutan, and the World Peace and Prayer Day hosted by Grandmother Agnes Pilgrim Baker and Chief Avrol Looking Horse.

Common to the two conferences was a concern for the environment, and in particular a concern for the element of water. The Tibetan Rinpoche talked about showing a love and respect for the water, through performing the water blessing ceremony here in Ashland. Chief Avrol Looking Horse and Grandmother Agnes talked about respecting and praising the elements through prayers and ceremonies.

Key to all three speakers was the knowledge that each element was alive and a part of the sacred, and as such needed to be honoured, respected and praised. This, in contrast to the elements being bought and sold as commodities, and simply for profit. If not, receding waters and changes in the other sacred elements would be what we could expect.

At Grandmother Agnes’s recent 91st birthday, I received a thank you card for attending, and the inscription read:

“I’d like to get people to start blessing the water and tell them it’s sacred and thank it for what it does for us.”

Grandmother Agnes Baker Pilgrim.

So, in our own List way, I believe that if we add these wordings to our Lists we will be doing our part to help to heal the waters and other situations involving the environment.

Local or Global: Input from Joe Timmreck

This last List gathering brought about an interesting discussion between Joe Timmreck and myself, about whether we should have our List wordings address local or global situations.  Often I have recommended global wordings, but I have also added the caution that when we do that, we need to make sure that it doesn’t take too much of our own energy.

Joe Timmreck added another perspective to this, and I am grateful. He mentioned that when you add global wordings oftentimes many, many factors come into play, and adding them can even change the outcomes of situations that have been developing for learning. Also, as I have found, the wording may not work as immediately or as well, most likely for those reasons.

So, that is why I am suggesting a more local approach, at least in this case. Joe also recommended that for more global concerns, group visualizations were recommended. I have been reminded of this before, and for this reason, I would love to gather those who are local and interested to attend an afternoon to visualize as a group, for our planet, ourselves, the environment and any other concerns.

Upcoming Classes: Oregon

On Sat., Oct. 24, at 10:30 AM we will gather to work on our Lists, and I will lead a Good/Bad Technique for those who are interested. At 12:30 PM we will be having a Pot lunch. At 1:30 PM, we will gather for a Group Visualization, focused on healing ourselves and the environment. We will gather at a private home, so please call or email to register for either or both sessions, and to confirm the location. Attendance is by donation. A suggested donation is $15.00.

Our next List Class is scheduled for Fri., Nov. Nov. 13, 7 – 10 PM, Sun., Nov. 15, 10 AM – 5 PM, and Tues., Nov. 17, 7 – 10 PM, at the Phoenix Public Library, 510 West 1st Street, Pheonix, Oregon. These dates are subject to change, however, so stay tuned.  Fee, TBA.

Upcoming Classes: San Francisco

On Oct. 24 & 25, a Sat. & Sun., Joe Timmreck will teaching his second San Francisco List Class!  Please call or email Marnie Hancock if you know of any individuals in the San Francisco area who would be interested in attending.  Fee & Location, TBA.

Humanity Transcending Differences

I would like to leave you with one more interesting “element” shared by Chief Avrol Looking Horse. He was very inspired to share this message with the world. According to him and Aboriginal Prophesies, times of great change and reconciliation are upon us.  This is evidenced by the birth of white animals and especially the White Buffalo Calf in 1994. In order to solve the problems of today, he believes we need to transcend our differences and to problem solve as one group of humanity. Differences in religion, race and creed need to be put aside, and we need to work together to resolve negative situations by turning them into positive ones.

Doesn’t that sound like the List? Happy writing, happy “righting,” and I will be in touch again as the fall progresses.

Here is a link to videos of Chief Avrol Looking Horse talking about the importance of these times for those who are interested.

https://search.yahoo.com/yhs/search?p=chief+arvol+looking+horse+sacred+sites&ei=UTF-8&hspart=mozilla&hsimp=yhs-001

Love, Light & Laughter,
Marnie Hancock.

Positive Words Blossom Like Spring Flowers & Summer Magic

Spring has turned to Summer, and the Post that I was planning for Spring, “Positive Words Blossom Like Spring Flowers,” is no longer current! I would like to share with you these beautiful spring pictures from Lithia Park here in Ashland, Oregon, though, along with a “list” of wonderfully positive wordings we generated at one of our recent List Gatherings.

Lithia Park Ashland OR Multicolored Rhododendrons Spring 2015
“How would you like to describe yourself?” a List Alumni asked.

These were the answers we generated.

“Healthy, strong, physically fit, independent, content, empowering, intelligent, happy, genuine, fun, authentic, wise, a leader, knowledgeable, master, kind, glorious, honourable, ethical, discerning, honest, truthful, accepting, gracious, generous, credible, effective, competent, peaceful, talented, confident, glorious, and beautiful.”

I encourage everyone to choose the words they love from the “list” above, and add them separately to their Lists in the following List statement frame.

“I am knowing and experiencing myself as__________, easily, and in a healthy and positive way.”

Summer Magic!

I can’t believe summer is almost over! Speaking of magic and imagination, I thought I’d share of few of my summer’s favorite photos. Tell me that miracles can’t happen!  After a wonderful day hiking with my husband at Crater Lake National Park in Oregon, we stopped at a bridge looking over the headwaters of the Rogue River.  Look what appeared in the sky!

Unicorns at Rogue River Farewell Bend Oregon

Although I continue to believe that miracles and magic are much more likely when you have a List and when you keep it current!

I am planning a List Class soon in the Ashland area, so please contact me if you know of someone who is interested in attending the class.

FYI, this fall’s Mercury Retrograde is from Sept. 17 to Oct. 9, 2015.

Don’t be afraid, like this tree we saw at Jedidiah Smith State Park this summer!  Fears can be turned to magic and calm with one simple List wording!  The I Want to the I Am process eliminates the limiting beliefs that are causing the fear in the first place!

A Scared Tree in Jedediah Smith Redwood State Park Oregon

The List Class will be either before Sept. 17, or just after Oct. 9.  Please encourage your friends and family to attend, and consider reattending for half price.

Also, please be in touch if you need some help with a reading and your List. “List Readings” are the ones that I prefer to give, rather than those predicting the future; because I believe that we can and do create our own reality.  I can give intuitive insights, however, to help you get “unstuck,” and provide helpful List wordings to get your life flowing in a positive direction again, and thus help you to experience your own Paradise on Earth.

Here is one of my final, favorite photos from this summer, at Secret, Paradise Cove on the Oregon Coast.  Enjoy!

Secret or Paradise Cove the Oregon Coast

Gratefully, and with Lots of Love, Light & Laughter,
Marnie Hancock

Int’l Women’s Day, Sedona’s Grandmother’s Council & List Class Vancouver

List Class Vancouver

This month I will be travelling to North Vancouver, BC, and I will be holding a List Class during the last two weeks of March. Please stay tuned for details.

International Woman’s Day & The List

March 8th is International Woman’s Day, and it comes to mind for me how helpful the List is for Women. While the List is beneficial for both women and men, the List has a way to empower women even beyond our current comprehension.

“No matter how I look at it, a woman needs a man’s protection,” Jann Timmreck told me, in one of our last meetings together. Then she looked closely at me, and added, “But you don’t Marnie. There are very few women who get to this point.” (Not that I don’t appreciate men: my husband protects me all the time, and on all levels.)

I asked her to explain, but I thought I already knew the answer. –Months and months of Good/Bads, on many of the emotional issues that women have today: “guilt, worry, a lack of confidence,” etc., were all words that each month I would do one Good/Bad on, hoping to change my powerless reality to an empowered one.

Essentially, that day, she told me I had.

It may also have been at this meeting when she told me, “You are safe Marnie.” Years and years of carrying my keys in my hand, when going to a parking lot or for a run, ready to defend myself at the drop of a hat, suddenly seemed obsolete. “What, I am safe?”

Yes, after the substrata of disbelief melted away, I realized it was true.

Then she explained, “Men usually set a structure for women. But the List empowers women to set this structure for themselves.” She added, “The relationship between men and women has become so out of balance on this Earth, that the List was brought here to fix that.”

One of the largest issues in my life was “failure:” failure in my work, in my relationships, with money, etc.: issues that are all common and detrimental to women. And each time I “failed,” I had to go running back to my brothers for protection, because their “structure” was so strong.

But when I found the List, this all began to change. I remember one of the first most powerful wordings I added to my List:

“I am employed by the Burnaby School District as long as I want and choose….” This helped to take care of the financial crisis I was in, getting my job back with Burnaby that year, and soon afterwards I received a continuing contract.

Over and over again, I have heard how the List has empowered women. Women being afraid of asking for divorce, were easily given one: women who were afraid to leave abusive relationships because of financial hardship, were suddenly given everything they needed to move out: essentially, women who felt powerless before, were suddenly empowered: empowered to stand on their own, and to be “safe and secure at all times, and on any level….”

Can you imagine what would happen if women in Africa had the List? Or women in India, or in China? These powerful women, standing up for their rights! Can you imagine the prosperity the world and these women would experience?

Speaking of women standing up: I finally want to share with you what happened when I went to the Grandmother’s Council in Sedona, Arizona. Believe it or not, this does relate.

Sedona Grandmother’s Council, 2009

Imagine my surprise, when on my first day in Sedona I was driving my rental car out into the desert, trying to find where the Council was being held, and I see this huge white statue of a woman looming in the distance; standing even taller that the cross on the top of the three story church beside her.

Sedona Goddess

“Turn right at the church,” they had told me. –They didn’t mention the statue, I thought to myself. –But then I realized, that was because, on this day, they were “erecting” her.

Now, imagine this statue, for a moment, headless. Because that was the way she appeared, that first morning when I drove by. (I so regret not stopping and taking that picture.)

Because when I drove out that evening, she had a head.

–This gets even more interesting.

The conference lasted for three days, and each day I drove by this beautiful statue. On the third day, as I was leaving, I noticed that this woman’s hair had been painted a beautiful metallic gold.

Woman With The Yellow Hair

“The Woman with the Yellow Hair;” that phrase kept running through my consciousness. –I myself couldn’t believe it. There she was, standing three stories high, and being erected on the third day of my second Grandmother’s Council.

My whole reason for attending the Grandmother’s Council was to promote and share The List. I had long ago been told that Jann was once identified as “The Woman with the Yellow Hair.”  She had been made an honorary member of a Cherokee tribe, and was given this title, because of her work with The List. Long story short, I actually learned at this council, this title is an alternate for “White Buffalo Calf Woman,” the woman who brought many sacred ceremonies to the aboriginal people, many years ago. In some circles, it was foretold that she would return, bringing healing once again to the people of the Earth.

All this true or not, the existence of this feminine statue alone was epic. Statues reflect consciousness, and the existence of this statue represented the elevation of the feminine in our society, and to an equal and iconic level.

On this day, International Women’s Day, I celebrate Women’s Equality by sharing my stories with you.

On this day, I celebrate The List and it’s role in the return of women’s equality on the levels of women’s empowerment and safety on this Earth.

Thank you for listening.

Love, Light & Laughter,

Marnie Hancock.

2015, The Redwoods & Native People’s Code of Ethics

2015 is here! With the New Year we have an opportunity to re-evaluate the previous year, assess how we have moved through it, and decide what we want to do in the future. I have been watching, listening to and sensing what is being said about 2015, here in this spiritual mecca of Ashland, and I thought I’d share this with you.

About 2015, I have heard that in Chinese Astrology we are leaving the year of the Horse and entering into the year of the Sheep. The year of the Horse is all about strength and moving forward, but also endings and letting go. For some of us, this has been challenging. The year of the Sheep, however, is about deciding who we will “flock” with in our lives, going forward into the future.

Re-evaluating, I see these influences reflected in both my own life and in the world around me. In my own life, I have found myself joining a number of Service organizations here in Ashland, and gradually letting go of my life in Canada. While I miss my Canadian friends (I am planning a visit in the Spring!), I am enjoying meeting many new people in these “flocks!”

Outwardly, I look around the world, and I see how globally we as human beings are all being asked to decide what we need to let go of, and what our affiliations and priorities will be in the future. (Hence the featured image of this article: who do we have in the forest surrounding us, and what are their values?)

In this new year, I thought I would share examples of what I see as priorities in my inner and outer world, to help guide you in using your List for 2015.

New Year’s Day: A Minor List Overhaul.

This New Year’ Day found me sitting in the back yard in the glow of the sunshine, going through what I would call a Minor Overhaul of my List, my main tool for creating my world.  (No, these pictures are not from my immediate back yard.  But they are from a forest not very far away from here, The Jedediah Smith Redwoods State Park in California.)

First, I sat pulling out many old I Am Statements that were no longer necessary for me. With the final resolution of a major “inner” family issue, I was able to remove and burn many statements I had on my List about this subject. While I must say that this situation did not go completely my way, I am happy now that it is finally over, and I am grateful for the prosperity the List has brought into my life.

Next, I was completely surprised that I didn’t have certain items on my List that I thought were already there! For example, I didn’t have my new credit cards on my List! Whew! They are on it now, numbers and all, and that they are having “approximately a zero balance.”

The Redwoods

For the outer world, I added a number of new statements for the Redwood Trees in California. As you may have heard, in the beautiful Redwood Forests on the California Coastline, poachers are cutting burls out of these beautiful and sacred trees.

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Here is an example of what I wrote.

… having the Redwood trees in the forest in the Redwood National Park in California safe and secure at all times, easily, and….

By the end of the two weeks, I had burned many old statements, added a few new ones and reread my entire List three times. I had even made a few “quick adds,” as reading my List three times reminded me of new additions.

Native People’s Code of Ethics

Lastly, as I sat there in the sun, I wondered what I should write about in 2015. Then, I read my emails. A close friend and long-time List Alumni sent me the following Native People’s Code of Ethics. I knew this was a really great starting point.

I was so pleased to see how closely these tenets match those of the List. I really appreciated the reminder about the kind of person I try to be, and the kind of people I see, know and love in you, List Alumni. You are the type of people I like to “flock with.” LOL.

I hope you enjoy reading through these tenets as much as I did. (For List people, tenet number 1 would be, “Use your List, and say your Color and Emotion often!”)

1. Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often. The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak.

2. Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path. Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy and greed stem from a lost soul. Pray that they will find guidance.

3. Search for yourself, by yourself. Do not allow others to make your path for you. It is your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.

4. Treat the guests in your home with much consideration. Serve them the best food, give them the best bed and treat them with respect and honor.

5. Do not take what is not yours whether from a person, a community, the wilderness or from a culture. It was not earned nor given. It is not yours.

6. Respect all things that are placed upon this earth – whether it be people or plant.

7. Honor other people’s thoughts, wishes and words. Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them. Allow each person the right to personal expression.

8. Never speak of others in a bad way. The negative energy that you put out into the universe will multiply when it returns to you.

9. All persons make mistakes. And all mistakes can be forgiven.

10. Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit. Practice optimism.

11. Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART of us. It is part of your worldly family.

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12. Children are the seeds of our future. Plant love in their hearts and water them with wisdom and life’s lessons. When they are grown, give them space to grow.

13. Avoid hurting the hearts of others. The poison of your pain will return to you.

14. Be truthful at all times. Honesty is the test of ones will within this universe.

15. Keep yourself balanced. Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self – all need to be strong, pure and healthy. Work out the body to strengthen the mind. Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.

16. Make conscious decisions as to who you will be and how you will react. Be responsible for your own actions.

17. Respect the privacy and personal space of others. Do not touch the personal property of others – especially sacred and religious objects. This is forbidden.

18. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF FIRST! You cannot nurture and help others if you cannot nurture and help yourself first.

19. Respect others’ religious beliefs. Do not force your belief on others.

20. Share your good fortune with others. Participate in charity.

This originally appeared in the “Inter-Tribal Times,” October, 1994

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Happy New Year Everyone!  Thank you for being a part of my forest!

Love, Light & Laughter,

Marnie Hancock

The List & Paradise on Earth

Recently I have been wondering, what can I suggest as List wordings in these times?  There seem to be so many crises going on in the world, and even though I feel personally empowered by my List, it is difficult not to be discouraged when looking at the global scene.

Suddenly, however, an idea popped into my head.  “Rename the Earth!”  What?  At first the idea didn’t make sense.  But when the idea turned into, “Rename the Earth Paradise,” the reasons became clearer.  Certainly this is what we all want, Paradise on Earth.  This may mean different things to different people, but I think generally we all want to be surrounded by and enjoy the delights of this beautiful, natural world, and to live in happiness and at peace with one another.

Secret, Paradise Cove The Oregon Coast 2014
Secret, Paradise Cove The Oregon Coast 2014

The images for this article are from my own Paradise on Earth, Paradise Cove, also known as Secret Cove.  This beach is a secret sunning spot known mostly to locals on the Oregon Coast.  I travel to this cove regularly, to enjoy the beautiful waterfalls and ocean water, the majestic rocks, and the wonderful wild life that shows up greet me (the seals above, and more images further on.)  Here, people are so happy to be surrounded by this beauty, that they smile and greet each other easily, and everyone has a wonderful time.

List Tips

The more I thought about it, the more I realized, renaming the Earth Paradise fits with one of the most basic List instructions:

·         go for the end result of what you want, and don’t get stuck in a means to an end.

Here then are the wordings I suggest for our Lists.

… seeing, knowing and experiencing this planet Earth as Paradise, easily, enjoyably and comfortably….

… having the planet Earth named and known as Paradise, easily, enjoyably and comfortably….

Who knows what this will get us!  Let’s watch for the delights!

These Times & Paradise on Earth

I would like to write a bit more about my own personal experiences with Paradise on Earth and these times below.  These times have been getting a lot of attention, with many ancient prophesies seen as coming true.  I remember a whole series on the History Channel, addressing all of these prophesies, from the Hopi, to Christian Revelations, to the prophesies of Nostradamus.

The Metaphysical Community’s Perspective

One prophesy that I have been hearing a lot of lately is one from the metaphysical community.  This prophesy is that in these times, we all have the ability to experience Paradise on Earth, but for those people not living a more spiritual life, their lives will be more difficult.  Those who need to learn this but don’t, will experience a death or challenge of some sort. Too, we may all experience some sort of “ending,” before the New Age or Paradise can manifest.

One of the aboriginal more well-known signs that this time of prophesy and rectification is here was the birth of the White Buffalo Calf.  Further to this, one of the current spiritual teachers for the Lakota Sioux say that all animals will eventually show their true natures, being born white, further signifying the importance of these times.  He adds, “We are the ones we have been waiting for.”

I would like to tell you about a recent experience that perhaps reflects these aboriginal prophesies.

Back to Paradise Cove

Clifford Camp Campground, Northern California
Clifford Camp Campground, Northern California

One day several months ago, my husband and I made our seasonal journey to the Oregon Coast.  We stopped at several beaches along the way to our final destination, Paradise & Secret Cove.  Popping out from the Redwoods onto the Coast, our first stop was at Clifford Camp, a small but beautiful campground in Northern California.  We raced down to the shoreline, and enjoyed the beautiful waves washing up on the shore.  Soon into our stroll, though, we spied a brown, furry seal, trying to make his way down to the ocean.  This was so unusual, because usually we see them playing and fishing in the waters, rather than stranded up on the shore.  My husband commented, “He looks pretty beat up.”  We decided not to get too close and disturb him, and we turned around and went our own way.  I visualized sending the seal a nice golden ring, hoping this would help him; and, as Jann Timmreck used to teach, help the whole species of seals.

Our next stop was Paradise or Secret Cove.  Down the trail and rocks we scrambled, walking beside beautiful waterfalls, and arriving beside a beautiful creek and sandy shore.  After an hour or so of lounging in the sun and discovering paths over to even more beaches, we returned to our creek to lie down.  Suddenly, looking closer in the creek’s water, I noticed another beautiful seal; but this time, this seal was dead.  His neck was bent back, and he lay pushed up against one of the sandy banks, half in the stream that washed by.  I was shocked.  –This was twice in one day that we had seen seals in distress, and we had never seen this before on the coast.  By then I realized that I was very likely being given a message, from the universe or the seals themselves.  This, too, is an aboriginal teaching.  I made a note to myself, to watch for the third occurrence of finding seals in our vicinity, the details of which might help me understand the meaning of their distress.

Secret, Paradise Cove, The Oregon Coast
Secret, Paradise Cove, The Oregon Coast

After getting over the initial shock, I was encouraged then to see several of our seal friends swimming out in the bay, their heads popping up, looking at us curiously, as they took a short break from their fishing adventures.  I remember thinking, OK, then maybe it’s not that serious.  Maybe it was just an unusually high tide or rough sea, which happens sometimes, which threw the seals around and against the rocks.

–I had even almost forgotten completely about the incident, when my husband and I began our usual ascent up the steep cliffs.  Suddenly he said, “What’s that over there?”  It took me a while to see what he was gesturing to, but my eyes soon took in a beautiful, delightful sight.  There on the rocks below, one small cove over, lay a beautiful, whitish seal, with her lovely white pup seal lying beside her.  He poked his small head over her back, she looked towards us, and the pup lifted up its tail, seeming to wave.

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White Seals, Secret, Paradise Cove, The Oregon Coast

In that moment, I knew we had had a very special day.  All in one day, we had seen suffering, death, life and rebirth.  Too, we had seen this rebirth in the form of white seals, this being very unusual and very significant to the aboriginal prophesies of the day.  White to the aboriginal people signifies spirituality emerging on the planet, something I believe we all hope for.

Later, I read that seals have been suffering from some unknown malady, their populations dying off to a very high extent. What is causing this, is only due to speculation: a virus caused by warmer water temperatures, or simply a natural cycle.  In my New Year’s Article of 2013, I suggested several general wordings about the health of the water, air and land.  Here is a link to that article, if you would like to add these wordings to your  List.  If you want to be more specific, you can add a statement for animals or seals themselves.

https://therealitydynamicslist.com/better-world/global-list-wordings/

Whatever the cause, I enjoyed my encounters at my Secret, Paradise Cove, and I wanted to share this beauty with you.  I was encouraged by the seal mother and her pup.  Perhaps they were a sign of better times ahead.  Certainly, the seals in this location seem happier and to have increased in abundance, this final photo coming from a more recent trip to Paradise & Secret Cove.

Many Seals At Secret, Paradise Cove, The Oregon Coast
Many Seals At Secret, Paradise Cove, The Oregon Coast

To Paradise on Earth!

Love & Light,

Marnie Hancock.

List Class, List Update & G/B Classes & Mercury Retrogrades 2014/15

List Class September

I recently send out a notice about the Fall List Class on Sept 17, 21 & 24, 2014. This line should read, “Please have dinner before you arrive Wed.’s.” (Not Tues. & Thurs.) Woops!

Click on this link to download and view the corrected poster:
https://therealitydynamicslist.com/wp-content/uploads/List-Poster-Sept-2014.pdf

This information can also be found on the Home Page and Schedule section of our website, at www.therealitydynamicslist.com.

Please help out with marketing by sharing this information with your family and friends. Forwarding this poster would be helpful.

List Books

Sales of List books are increasing, which is wonderful. This is also a quick reminder to call me if you need a List book or two.

Please also remember to encourage the people you teach privately to eventually attend a full List Class. This List Class, Sept. 17, 21 and 24, will cost only $80.00 if people are preregistered by Mon. the 15th and if they already have their own List book. The cost is significantly reduced because we are holding the List Class at a private home. What a great deal! Please call me for the location.

Mercury Retrogrades

The next Mercury Retrograde runs from Oct. 4th to Oct. 25th. This is great time for deep discussions, but contracts and decisions should be finalized and signed only after the retrograde is over.

The Mercury Retrogrades for 2015 are as follows: Jan. 21 – Feb. 11, May 18 – June 11, and Sept. 17 – Oct. 9.

List Update Class in November

I have planned a List Update Class for Sat., Nov. 16, from 12-4 pm, in Ashland at the Guanojuato Room at the Ashland Library. Pot Lucks have worked well, and so we can arrange details closer to the time.

Update: The List Good/Bad Technique and Info. Talk

The List Good/Bad Technique and Info. Talk that I taught using Power Point in June in Ashland was a definitely a learning experience! The Good/Bad Technique Power Point went very well: however, the List Intro. Talk taught this way was a complete flub! Eh hem. Live and learn! As I said to a number of friends, “I gave up my power to Power Point!” When I finally googled, “How to use Power Point,” all 10 key points to avoid, I used them all! LOL.

But, the feedback was, that the Good/Bad Power Point was “very good.” My “point” is, would any of you be interested in an On-Line Good/Bad Class this fall, facilitated through Power Point? Please let me know.

The Benefits of The Good/Bad Technique

I have seen so many people complete the Good/Bad Technique about a block in their lives, and then that one area their lives completely improved and changed. The changes took place so smoothly, however, that the people did not even recognize that it was the Good/Bad Technique that caused it! This Technique is time consuming: it digs deep; but it is well worth the time, removing blocks that have been in place often for a lifetime. Let me know if you are interested!

Photo in Focus

I sent out the featured photo in a brief broadcast email, announcing the upcoming class. When I used a template to send that email, however, the photo went out of focus. Sent as an article, the photo is much clearer. Here is the beautiful photo taken in Lithia Park, Ashland, Fall 2013 this time in focus. Enjoy, and I look forward to seeing and being in contact with you all again soon. Love, Light & Laughter, Marnie Hancock.

 

Women’s Rights, Nigerian School Girls, List Wordings and Affirmations

Introduction

Improving Women’s Rights and Prosperity was the chosen goal of several of our recent List Gatherings in Ashland Oregon.

To include those of you who live elsewhere, I would like to share our many thoughts about this, and the List wordings and affirmations we developed for Improving Women’s Rights and Prosperity.

I feel even more motivated to share these wordings with you, with the recent kidnapping of schoolgirls in Nigeria. I have highlighted and added several List wordings to address this situation.

“…having the school girls from Chibok in Nigeria home with their families, easily….”

“…having the school girls from Chibok in Nigeria safe and secure at all times, easily….”

Below are the wordings we developed for Improving Women’s Rights and Prosperity. Please feel free to add any of these wordings to your List if they are important to you.  These wordings I took mostly from the content of “The Essential List,” a short form version of List wordings for everyone, which I often use at List Reunions as a refresher.

List Wordings For Improving Women’s Rights and Prosperity

 

“…having women safe and secure at all times….”
“…having women safe and secure at all times on any level….”

“…having women sexually safe and secure and comfortable at all times….”

“…having women and girls have the best possible education for them….”
“…having women and girls have the best possible schools for them….”

“…having women and girls do whatever they want, whenever they want….”

“…having women happy….”
“…having women fulfill their life plans….”
“…having women surrounded by only positive and beneficial energies….”

“…having women have the best possible self-concepts….”
“…having women self-confident….”
“…having women love and accept themselves, on any level….”

“…having women have the best possible homes for them….”
“…having women have the best possible drinking water for them….”
“…having women have the best possible foods and beverages for them….”

“…having women physically healthy and strong, naturally and normally, and in balanced….”
“…having women physically comfortable, naturally and normally, and in balanced.…”

“…having women rich and wealthy, fulfilling their wants, needs and desires….”
“…having women financially independent….”
“…having women abundantly prosperous….”
“…having women have the best possible financial prosperity for them….”

“…having women as the best possible mothers….”
“…having women raise their male children in the best possible form and manner….”

“…having women have approximately equal rights, privileges and power to men….”
“…having men everywhere respect the wants, needs and desires of women and girls….”
“…having men everywhere see, know and experience women as approximately equally powerful, on any level….”
“…having men and women approximately equal, on any level….”

“…having people everywhere have the best possible beliefs about women….”

List Alumni Feedback

List Alumni attending our gathering provided even more wordings for improving Women’s Rights and Prosperity.

“…having the trafficking of women and children exist only to the mutual benefit of all, easily….”
“…having only the best possible rehabilitation programs and support for women and children who are trafficked, easily….”

This term “trafficking” is new, and as this problem goes away, statements with this word need to be removed. In areas where such problems exist, it is also important to target that area with the safety wordings, and as in the case in Nigeria, specifically women and girls.

For example,

“…having girls in Nigeria safe and secure at all times, easily….”
“…having school girls in Nigeria safe and secure at all times, easily….”
“…having girls in Nigeria have the best possible education for them, easily….”

Including Men, Women and Children

Several long-term alumni shared the concern that we should not exclude men and boys. Therefore men are included in several of the List wordings below; and rather than indicating girls and boys, we have used the word children.

“…having men, women and children independent and strong….”
“…having men, women and children make the best possible choices for their best benefit….”
“…having men, women and children have the best possible beliefs about women’s equality….”
“…having men, women and children have the best possible education about women’s equality….”
“…having men, women and children have the best possible education….”
“…having parents raise their children in the best possible form and manner….”
“…having men and women raise their sons with the best possible beliefs about women’s equality….”
“…having men, women and children everywhere have the best possible balanced relationships and interactions….”
“…having the peoples of the Earth easily using the appropriate Mind Frame for the mutual benefit of all….”

Your Feedback Is Valuable!

I hope these List wordings were as helpful and interesting for you as they were for us. As you can tell, we all went in many different directions. What we found as a group was that as we are all so different, different wordings were more relevant to different people. We decided to have people try out at least one of their favorite wordings, and place them on their own Lists. Together we will share changes that we’ve noticed over time.  We value your input, too, and we look forward to hearing from you on this topic.  Please feel free to comment here, on our website, or to write to me personally.

Our Next List Gathering, Info Talks and List Classes

Our next List Gathering is Sat., June 14, 10 AM-2PM, at the Ashland Public Library, downstairs in the Guanajuato Room.

The first half of this List Gathering I plan to include a fun, new List Intro. Talk, so please bring along someone new you think will benefit from the List process, and a fun lunch treat or snack.  The second half of the List Gathering, we can work on updating our Lists, or doing a Good/Bad Technique.

Our next List Class will follow the next two Saturdays, June 21 and June 28, 10 AM – 4PM.

I am also giving a List Intro. Talk in Grants Pass on Thurs., May 22nd, from 3-4 PM, at The Suites Retirement Home, 1301 Southeast Parkdale Drive. Please check our website schedule for more information, at www.therealitydynamicslist.com or give me a call at 541-301-0768.

I have had several requests to share our List Gatherings via Skype, but we find that List Gatherings are often quite personal and private, and so to respect the rights and privacy of people attending, I am presently choosing to send out a written summary of our gatherings.

Wishing you all “the best possible,” of your “wants, needs and desires!”

Yours prosperously!

Marnie M. Hancock

Anti-Bullying Programs In Schools: A 25 Year Teacher’s Perspective, Conclusion, Peer Mediation, Part 4

Part 4.  Peer Mediation: The Anti-Bullying Strategy of the Future

Laureen Harper, Prime Minister Stephen Harper’s wife, recently named Peer Mediation as the Canadian Anti-Bullying Strategy of the future.  She presented this strategy after an inquiry into preventing Bullying and Cyber Bullying in Canada, and thus preventing teen suicides.

So, Just what is Peer Mediation?

Just what is Peer Mediation, and how does it work?  I first encountered Peer Mediation about six years ago, when I was a Teacher On Call in the first District I ever worked for.  One lunch hour, I was teaching at the same school of the very first Principal to implement an Anti-Bullying Program in my District, 25 years ago.  You will remember from Article 1, 25 years ago I went to this Principal to get the first Anti-Bullying Program, with the goal to eliminate Bullying in my classroom.  Unfortunately, my school and many others did not choose to implement this program.  But this particular Principal never stopped in his drive to eliminate Bullying.  Not only was he the first Principal to implement Anti-Bullying in our school district, but he was also one of the first Principals to implement Peer Mediation.

Arriving at his school at lunch hour, unbeknownst to him, I saw how his Peer Mediation program worked first hand.  I arrived when his students were still outside, playing out on the playground.  (You will remember in Article 1 that the playground is often where Bullying occurs.)

As I approached the school’s entrance, I noticed two or three students who were wearing brightly colored blue and black jackets.  I realized later that this identified them as the Peer Mediators, and the Problem Solvers.  I remember being simply amazed when I observed two other younger children run up to them, very agitated and upset.  When these children found their Peer Mediators, they quickly told them about a problem they’d had with another student, who had been Bullying them on the playground.

To my amazement, these mediators listened calmly and carefully, valuing and even clarifying what the children said.  I was astonished at their level of maturity and skill, with being so young.  (I think these children were in about Grade 5.  Grades 5-7 intermediate students are the ones chosen to be Peer Mediators.)

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Coming out of nowhere, I suddenly noticed the school Principal, and he stood quietly watching in the background.  The mediators soon noticed him too, and they turned and began to tell him about what had happened.  He stopped them, gave them a quick word of encouragement, and said, “You know what to do!  Go on, go and find him!”  So off they went, with renewed confidence and ease, to find the “Bully,” and then to problem solve with all of the children involved.  All in a quick instant, a problem that at 1:00 pm would have taken the classroom teacher 10-15 minutes of teaching time to solve, had already been to be taken care of.

Problem Solving Strategies, a Part of Peer Mediation

I don’t know what exactly happened next, because I had to sign in for work.  But I believe that these children had already been trained in many of the Problem Solving Strategies that I discussed in Part Three of this Article.  Summarized here, they are: respectfully discussing feelings and reactions; calmly getting to the truth of what happened; gently encouraging empathy; and finally sharing appropriate apologies.

Rules, Consequences and Rewards Too!

I am fairly sure that this school would also have had a well-established set of Rules, Consequences and Rewards, which the Peer Mediators and the whole school would have known about.  Ultimately, if the incident were really serious and frequent, I’m sure the Principal himself would have been talking with the child who had Bullied, and if necessary, beyond an apology, more serious consequences would have been applied.

Add Peer Modeling and Peer Mentoring

Subtly, during Peer Mediation, the powerful tools of Peer Modeling and Peer Mentoring are also at work.  In Part 2 of this Article, I described the wonderful work of another very special School Professional, a School Counselor at the great school I was working at this Spring.  This Counselor had amazing successes when through the School’s Student Council he implemented the Anti-Bullying Program of Pink Shirt Day.  His success rate implementing Student’s Council Peer Modeling and Peer Mentoring was simply amazing.  I remember I was astonished that on Monday’s Pink Shirt Day everyone in my classroom arrived wearing pink; and almost every one of my students wore a Pink T-Shirt.

A School Counselor on Peer Mediation

Speaking about this Counselor, just before I left this placement, I spoke briefly with him about Peer Mediation.  I asked him if he’d heard about Peer Mediation before, and he said he had.  He told me that there was a school in his district using Peer Mediation, and it was working very well for that school.  We talked about the upcoming layoffs of Special Education Assistants at his school, who were the lunch and recess time supervisors there.  We concluded that his school would benefit greatly from implementing a Peer Mediation Program, and he was very interested in facilitating this.

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Sadly, I heard that this coming year, due to even more cutbacks in our government’s education funding, this Counselor’s position had been completely eliminated.  –Ah..; and I thought it was Bullying we were trying to eliminate?  Need I say more?  Sigh.  Well, yes, I think I do.

Marnie’s Rant, On Government Cutbacks

This spring, at the wonderful school I taught at, I attended numerous recess and lunch hour meetings about how the School and the District were going to implement this new round of government cutbacks.  I was very sadly reminded of the last years of my on-contract teaching days.

In the late 90’s, we as teachers were finally able to celebrate having obtained Class Size, Class Composition and Preparation Time language in our Teacher contracts.  The next year though, suddenly the Provincial Government came in and completely stripped our contracts of this language and more.  Suddenly, we felt that the much more stable and positive learning environment that we’d achieved, for both ourselves and our students, had been lost.

As long as I can remember, government funding to School Districts has been decreasing almost every year.  In 1985, when I first started teaching French Immersion Kindergarten, I actually had an assistant who made teaching materials for me, several hours a week.  That was so great, because back then, there were no French materials to buy.  (Teachers, by the way, buy most of their own resources.)  But the next year, and almost every other year afterward, reductions in support time of various kinds occurred.  Over the years, Resources Teachers such as this wonderful Counselor, had their time reduced and reduced, because they did not enroll a classroom, and they were not deemed essential.

I remember the final year of my on-contract teaching days, during the 1999/2000 school year, when my Learning Resource Teacher announced that she was not going to be coming to my classroom anymore.  No more time for her to take that small group of children who needed extra help to learn to read and write.  (Forget about time for Math: that had been gone a long time ago.)  No more time for her to assess their needs, and then to work with myself and parents to design a program that would work for them.  No more time for her to model for me new and old teaching strategies, and to help me become a better teacher: because usually Resource Teachers are our Master Teachers, and their input is highly valuable.

To clarify, because Resource Teachers do not enroll a classroom, they are not encumbered by the need to do report cards five times a year, nor for organizing programming for 25-30 children.  They have time to research and develop new programs.  Too, they have often been very successful teachers, who have taught for a long time, and then who have gone back to university to get a Master’s Degree in Special Education.  Without them, then, what does this mean, for the quality of our children’s education?  They are our mentors: and suddenly they were gone.

A Stressful Learning Environment

Too, when cutbacks are very large, such as they were this last year, District strategies are to lay off everyone first, and then they reoffer employees their jobs, but for a lesser amount of time.  Some classroom teachers have to move to another school; and Principals and staff are left with very difficult decisions to make.  Until this has been decided, however, many meetings go on at school, at recess and lunch.  As a result, much stress occurs amongst Administrators, Teachers and Resource Staff; and yet they must all continue running their schools and their classrooms.  Ultimately, I believe the students suffer from this stress also.

The Parent View

While all parents see is strikes, the need to get babysitting for their children, and a lack of report cards or after school sports, there is truly much more going on within a school that counts.  I mean, aren’t we really there too teach?  Aren’t our children really there to learn?  Where is that in this picture?

When teachers consider job action, there is really much more at stake than an after school Volleyball game.    Can your child read?  Can your child write?  Can your child perform Math activities, at their grade level or more?  Why is this no longer a concern?

Also, Is Your Child Happy at School, or is He or She being Bullied?

And, for the purposes of this Article, is your child happy at school?  Is your child well adjusted?

Or, even more specifically, at school, is your child being Bullied?

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One day, because of government cutbacks, are you going to find out that your child was Bullied, to the point of committing suicide?  And all because of a government that swore to eliminate Bullying, eliminated Counselling positions instead?  Because it is a School Counsellor who will help a child who seems unhappy.  It is a School Counsellor, who given the time, will find out what is going on, and work with parents, teachers and students to fix the problem.  It is a School Counsellor who will model compassion and concern, and find and implement the programs that will help to eliminate Bullying in our schools.

I’ll never forget the year too, again during the 1999/2000 school year, when the School Counsellor at my school told me, “I don’t have time to work with your kids Marnie.  Just put in the referral, and I’ll refer them out to another service.”  She, too, even back then, was spread between three schools.

When Teachers Strike

I know, when teachers strike, it is important programs like Anti-Bullying Programs, and important Resource Teachers such as the School Counselor and Learning Resource Teachers, and ultimately the quality of our education system as a whole, that teachers are fighting for.

By Sept. of this year, when I had posted Part 1 of my Anti-Bullying Article, I tried to contact the School Counselor that I had been writing about.   When he didn’t respond right away, I found out that that he had gone from working almost full-time at this wonderful school, to completely losing his position, to then working at this school part-time; but then he had been placed at two other schools as well.  When I sent Part 1 of this Article to him, he told me he read my article in his car, parked and taking a short break from driving between schools.  Need I ask, how effective is this?

This, I believe, is the real issue.  There is a need in our society for Anti-Bullying Programs and Special Education Resource Teachers, such as this Counsellor and my former Learning Assistance Teacher.  Yet there is simply no funding for it: and what there is, continually gets eroded.

Anti-Bullying is Moral Issue

I would like to leave some final thoughts about Anti-Bullying with the same Principal who first implemented the two very powerful Anti-Bullying Programs in my District; the first Anti-Bullying Program, “Bully Beware,” and then later, Peer Mediation.  As you will remember from Part #3, I had recently met with him at his new school district, where he was made Director of Instruction, when I went to pick up an old T4 for my records.

During our conversation, while I had heard that he was no longer involved in any type of Anti-Bullying work, he told me that he had actually not abandoned this pursuit at all.  Several years ago, he became involved in a Nation-Wide Campaign to Eliminate Bulling.  He travelled all across Canada, coordinating with the RCMP and several other key educators, teaching about what Bullying was and how to eliminate it.

He also stated that in his opinion, dealing effectively with Bullying was really a moral issue.  What he meant by this, initially I wasn’t sure.  Just like when I first met him 25 years ago, I was slightly taken aback by his unique and innovative position.  –He was always so ahead of the game.

What Did He Mean?

Upon reflection, I believe this is what he meant.  Teaching tolerance and respect is essentially, teaching morality.  For example, by addressing bullying, you are actually teaching the moral and golden rule of, “Do unto other as you would have them do unto you.”

Also, I think he means that as bystanders, we all have a moral obligation, or a responsibility, to stop any type of Bullying:  whether we are teachers, principals, parents or government leaders alike.

During our conversation, he also shared that sometimes it is not easy to stand up for someone who is being Bullied.  Ultimately, he was implying that this takes courage.

Certainly implementing the new programs such as those mentioned above takes courage.  By doing so, the people involved are taking a stand against Bullying.  Certainly this principal and the teachers, administration and support staff at the wonderful school that I recently taught at, demonstrated all of these qualities; and many, many more.  I believe that we need to ask our government leaders to actually show more courage, and now to actually fund the programs that they endorse.

It’s Not Just Children Who Bully

Returning to what this Principal shared, lastly, he added that it’s not just children who Bully.  I was so surprised to hear this from a fellow colleague: but I knew it was true.  Not every school I had worked at had been as positive, forward thinking, and as inclusive as the one I taught at this spring.

At some schools, Principals simply impose their policies, rarely valuing teacher, parent and staff input.  Also, some parents can Bully school staff, if there was the slightest hint that their child is misbehaving.  Too, for whatever reason, teachers have long been the target of what seems to be unjustified Bullying by certain media and governmental groups.  Not that all teachers are completely innocent themselves!  I have sometimes for example observed teachers let Bullying comments by students go unchallenged.  Unfortunately, this allows Bullying to thrive, and this puts students at risk.

Eliminating Bullying Takes Moral Courage

It takes strong and courageous people like this Counselor and this Principal, however, to step up and make all of these Anti-Bullying strategies successful.   I only hope that those in charge, especially government leaders, begin to see how even the slightest cutbacks in education are actually eroding the success of not only our education system, but Anti-Bullying Programs today.

Ultimately, in my opinion, if we want our youth not to Bully, and we want to prevent Teen Suicides, then we must have the courage to do everything within our power to achieve this.  We must model positive, respectful, and inclusive behaviors ourselves.  This does not mean that we must be “mamby pamby.”  It is us, the adults, who are in charge!  We must remember this.  When necessary, we must be tough, “courageous,” strong, implementing consequences when necessary, and doing everything we can to uphold the values—and morals—that we want in our society.  Lastly, we must be educated.  Ultimately, we must encourage our government to spend money on developing and providing many more Anti-Bullying Resource Materials, and we must encourage them to fund Resource Teacher and Counsellor Teaching times.

Building a Strong, Safe Anti-Bullying Community

I am so grateful for having had the opportunity to work at such a stellar school this year, and for finally being able to see my desire to have effective Anti-Bullying Strategies implemented in Lower Mainland Schools.  I am so grateful for the strong leaders I have met along the way: those who helped me to develop my own Anti-Bullying strategies in my own classroom, and those who developed these programs on a school-wide level: this school’s Counselor, the special Principals; and the Learning Resource and classroom Teachers, who all taught me so much.

Ultimately, building a safe, strong Anti-Bullying Community for our youth takes time, education, special strategies, encouragement, moral courage, innovation, committment, funding, and very special, skilled, kind and courageous people like those described above.

Also, I do not believe that these strategies are just for teachers alone.  Parents and government members all need to be aware of and utilize these Anti-Bullying strategies, so that we all can bring them to bear on any type of Bullying: be it cyber, emotional or physical.

If we do this, I believe we will develop much stronger, healthier, safer and happier children.  Our children will know how to make good, healthy decisions; and as a result of our elimination of bullying, and they will not even get close to bullying others, or ever considering suicide themselves.

Peer Mediation Boys

Thank you for listening.  Here are the Website links for the Anti-Bullying Programs I have mentioned in this article.

http://www.erasebullying.ca/

http://www.bullybeware.com/

www.thesecondstep.org

For Discipline with Dignity, http://www.educationworld.com/a_admin/admin/admin534.shtml

http://k6educators.about.com/od/classroommanagement/a/communitycircs.htm

http://www.mslbd.org/Logical_Consequences_FDC3B.pdf

http://www.studygs.net/peermed.htm

By Marnie Hancock, B.Ed., Author, & List Trainer.

www.therealitydynamicslist.com

Marnie Hancock is available to speak to individuals and groups upon request.  If you would like to learn more about The List, AKA Reality Dynamics, the ultimate Anti-Bullying tool, please visit the website above.  If you would like to contact Marnie personally, please write to marnie@therealitydynamicslist.com.